I am sensitive. Apparently. I wasn't allowed to know I was sensitive. At least this is how I perceive it. I didn't work out I had any sort of emotional sensitivity until I was around 30 when I read Aron's book The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Survive and Thrive When The World Overwhelms You.
I think I am not alone in feeling that frustration with a culture that perceived any sensitivity as a weakness. How many times have I been told to be less or that my interests are obsessive in some way, and my emotions are too intense. It has caused me no end of pain.
I nearly cried over a character who had their feelings laughed at because he wrote intense and deep poetry. I also discovered that Nelson's letters to Emma Hamilton were edited because the Victorians (those people again) didn't think that the level of sentiment he showed wasn't appropriate to a military leader. How can people do these things? How can you take the humanity and authenticity of another human being's love away from them? I mean sure Nelson is a straight white male, not that straight or gay existed in his time, but rigid gender norms, and expectations mean you can't even be a little sensitive?
I am no fan of British stoicism. No stoicism here.
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